Showing posts with label health and body. Show all posts
Showing posts with label health and body. Show all posts

Wednesday, March 28, 2012

10 Ways to Teach Your Child they are Beautiful.

This is inspired by a couple stories of parents with dark skinned children needing to teach their sons and daughters that they are precious just the way God made them.  However, with the rise of body image issues in young children, it certainly applies to many if not all children.


1. Start a Pinterest board and include images that look like your child or a variety of children to teach about diversity.
2. Turn off the television.  Images on television only teach children to grow up too fast and to look a couple specific ways.
3. Protest or create awarenes.  You could create awareness using a site such as change.org to help give your child a sense of empowerment.
4. Create a poster.  Here is some inspiration
5. Find birthday cards, books, magazines with people who look like them.
6. If you cant find the items in number 4 use colored pencil to darken the skin color on some of the images.
7. Ask friends to do the same when giving books or cards. This is much more significant than one might first assume. I still remember getting my first card with someone who looked like me on the cover.  I kept it for years.
8. Introduce positive role models of the same race (or whatever aspect they may be struggling with). Please do not show your son any old gangster rap artist and “say you can be anything you want to be.” Athletes may be overused as well.  You may find some here.  I will try to come up with some more lists specifically for this purpose. (Don't worry they won't all be black)
9. Create a beauty blog. This example deals with recovering from eating disorders but you could create one based on any topic.
10. Talk to them.  Tell them they are beautiful and wonderful just the way they are.  Do this every day.

What are some strategies you have used to help your child gain confidence in their physical appearance, or in general?

Wednesday, March 21, 2012

Managing Your Temper

If you are like me you have lost your temper a time or two, only to regret it later.  I thought I would share some tricks, quotes, and Bible verses about controlling your temper and the benefits.  Hope this helps you next time you are about to blow.

Photo taken in Haiti.  Check out my art blog to see more art from my Haiti trip
Tricks

New Research: The Nicer the Mom, the Smarter the Kid -  A great post for moms includes ways to not loose your temper at the very end.
Your Diet and Your Temper - MSN Health discusses some foods to calm your temper as well as other ways your mood
10 Tips to Tame Your Temper  - 10 simple actions to help keep your anger levels low

Anger and Your Health

25 Reasons Not to Loose Your Temper  - Includes tips and health reasons
Losing your Temper is Bad for Your Health - and here is why

The Bible Tells Me So...

and if the above info was not enough here are 28 Bible verses about Anger and Managing Your Temper.

Thursday, July 14, 2011

I am Thankful for My Water...

There are many things that I am thankful for.  As I was sitting, I was thinking that I was glad I could just walk into the kitchen and fill up my water bottle from the sink.

I was originally thinking that it was nice to not need a water filter simply to enjoy the taste.  Because in the Connor, I do need the water to be filtered.  See the Connor has some problems, like corroding pipes, rotting walls, and windows that don't open.  If you don't use the shower for a while (like Christmas vacation) you have to run the hot and cold water for several hours to get it clear.  It is completely safe, just has metal in it.  Anyways, if you look at some of these pictures of the building you might understand (why we live there and the beauty that is in the old buildings of Laramie).  We also have circular archways, which make it all worthwhile.

Anyways, I began to think a little broader and thought back to my recent Haiti trip.  I am extremely thankful that I don't have to pump my water, or bathe on the road or carry my water several miles.  I am thankful that I can turn on the faucet and even if the water taste funny, I can drink it.

I decided to write a post about the many things that I am thankful for.  Here are the first 13 that I rambled off in about 1 minute....what are your top 5?

 I am thankful that I can turn on a faucet and drink the water without getting sick
I am thankful for my friends and family
I am thankful for my husband
I am thankful for my education
I am thankful that I have the option to be a stay at home mom, artist, or work in a corporate position
I am thankful that I have a job
I am thankful for my computer
I am thankful for my artistic ability
I am thankful for music
I am thankful for flowers
I am thankful that I can spend time with those I love
I am thankful that I have had the experiences (both good and bad) that I have had
I am thankful that I have had positive role models throughout my life.


I created this YouTube video in response to this blog post and a video produced by Water.org featuring Matt Damon.





In conclusion,

Thank you God for all the wonderful blessings in my life.  
Thank you for both the big and the small.  
Thank you for everything that I take for-granted
and help me to see what is truly important in life.

Amen!

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Frugality

I read a post called “Frugality in a Consumption Crazed Society” a couple days ago.  The article made me think about my grandmother and how she remains frugal in a consumption crazed society. My grandmother may be the cheapest person in the world and this is why I love her. She washes plastic baggies and will buy pounds and pounds of nonperishable food and freezable food. She gardens and cans food all summer. She sews her cloths and makes her blankets, curtains, and upholsters her chairs. My grandma may not be doing these things because she is conscious of our resources running out, because she wants to be a good steward of the land we are given, or because she wants to follow the new “Go Green” trend, she is doing these things out of habit.

I am not about to say that we should adopt every one of my grandma’s habits, but we can learn from her. There are very practical ways that she saves money, energy, and resources. She turns lights off when she leaves the room and she never spends money that she doesn’t have (she also has a lot).
More importantly I would argue that one of the main problems in our society is that we tend to be the opposite of my grandma. We throw everything away and don’t even think about donating or sharing. We are constantly bombarded with messages that tell us we don’t have enough, are not good enough and need more to be normal.

One irony is that my grandma’s strategy may also be one of the best ways to get rich. If you seldom spend money that you don’t need to spend it will add up quickly. If you work hard and only spend what you have, or less, you will never be in the debt that many Americans will get themselves in. (If you are in debt, Read Dave Ramsy and listen.)

There are clearly two extremes and I would argue that people can live the happiest life somewhere in the middle. If you can never have enough, you will never be happy. On the other hand it is alright to buy nice things for yourself and others.

Saturday, February 26, 2011

Some more Black Beauty for you

Black Art and ArtistsGorgeous art work


I love the use of the figure in many of these. I will be posting about life drawing in my other blog soon and will add a link with my artist statement.

African American Art


I’m not a huge fan of the song but the paintings are absolutely gorgeous.

Here is another Artist whose work I enjoyed - Vanessa Turner

I guess since I am black, I will post links to my work as well
Face Book Page - Be sure to like it
My Art Blog
My Website

Monday, February 14, 2011

Black is Beautiful

 Black is Beautiful

Here is some self love for Valentines day!






This video alludes to some of the spiritual implications from black culture and history. Several African cultures saw their hair as connecting them to the spirits, or God because it reached to the sun. This is where the term “children of the sun” came from.  Anyways I like the history of natural hair way more than the history of relaxed hair.

Here is some of that history.  Enjoy!

Sunday, February 13, 2011

The Coil Review

Coil Review
I don't know much about this but it cracks me up every time I see it.


In the comments sections on YouTUbe felixicon says "actually i dont mean to b rude but we are not (black's) the only race of people that feel that way it's every culture and race everyone is trying to achieve the european look asian, american, indian, midle wast ect.. so again alot of black people need to recognize the problem and stop blaming things on each other embrace our brother and sisters faults so we could grow out of this epidemic."

He has a good point but embracing ourselves (wether natural or relaxed) could be a wise priority.  The lack natural being beautiful is something that should be addressed and changed and this video does that in a slightly humorous way.

Thursday, February 10, 2011

My Natural Hair Juorney

In response to my hair videos (I still have a couple more coming) I figured I would post some photos of my hair.  The last time I relaxed my hair was a few weeks before my wedding (May 23, 2009).  Since then I decided that I didn't want to deal with spending the time or the money to get it relaxed, so i didn't.

My hair still takes time but I am taking care of it better and I have so much more freedom.  I can get my hair wet, don't have to worry about the humidity, and I have the option of wearing it curly or flat ironed (I know this does damage the hair).  Here are some photos since I have gone natural.

They are all pretty bad photos of me, but you can see the hair.  I usually do my hair, or take it out, late at night (from 12 - 4am) so they are all late night before bed images.

I have no clue why I was making that face.
I think that this is my favorite curly hair or at least my favorite amount of curl.


Twists.  There is a better picture of them down below. 
I am still learning how to detangle/brush my hair so it took me a long time to get the tangles out without breakage.  
The twists probably took an hour maybe two, with detangling it was over 4 hours.
Here is my twist out.  It was late and I was tired.  It took a while.  I tend to leave protective styles in for a long time.  It was about one or two months, I think, some of the new growth started to dread.  It made for a late night.  But taking my time paid off.  I was shocked at the length that I had...
Deep conditioning, a co-wash, and four hours of flat ironing later.
In the winter (currently, I might change this) I co-wash about once a month and add about a tsp of olive oil before I go to bed every night.  I also use Shea Butter and other conditioners daily.  It seems to be working.  We have COLD, windy and snowy winters here and I do not want to risk shampooing the oils out, I also don't want build up of product.  Finding the happy medium may take a while.
  
In the summer I wash or co-wash my hair a about once/week.  I oil and condition more often.  About 3 tbsps a day if I wear it curly.
I do love how long my hair has grown due to going natural.

Miscellaneous photos




Simple protective style.

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

African American Barbie

Black Barbie


There are many pro and anti Barbie arguments out there. I see some validity in both. I realize that Barbie does offer unrealistic and impossible ideals about body image to young girls. At the same time Barbie has shown many young women that they can be anything that they want.

These examples of Black Barbies are inspiring because a lot of black women may not have been told that they can do anything that they want, however, black women can do anything the same as anyone else.  I love that some of these Barbies have natural hair, another important topic to the black community.

No matter where you stand on the pro to anti Barbie spectrum, it is hard to deny that these images haveto potential to offer inspiration to many young ladies around the world. In addition they shed light on an important part of American history.

Monday, February 7, 2011

My Black is Beautiful

This Black is Not Beautiful!
When I was little most of the black women that I had to look up to were not the greatest role models. There were not many respectable black people, male or female, on TV (BET or MTV). It is sad when an entire group of people is completely misrepresented for entertainment.

Anyone know what blackface was? Well a good example of it (people making money off of a caricature of black people) is the gangster rap they play on the radio. I will give you guys some examples of socially aware and intelligent hip hop in a future post, probably this month (here are some past music posts Bad Brains, a Gospel Choir).

NPR on blackface 

The point of Black History Month is not only to educate ourselves but to be proud of what makes us (not just blacks but people in general) unique and beautiful. Because I believe that all women and girls should have the opportunity to see beautiful, intelligent and respectable women who look like them, I decided to post this. And for those of you who are not a black female, I believe that you deserve to see something other than the dancer in the latest Jay-Z video. You deserve to see real beauty and real people. 

My Black is Beautiful Manifesto

My Black is Beautiful
From the color of my skin, to the texture of my hair, to the length of my strands, to the breadth of my smile,
To the stride of my gait, to the span of my arms, to the depth of my bosom, to the curve of my hips, to the glow of my skin,
My Black is Beautiful.
It cannot be denied. It will not be contained. And only I will define it.
For when I look in my mirror, my very soul cries out,
My Black is Beautiful.
And so today, I speak it out loud, unabashedly, I declare it anew,
My Black is Beautiful.
Whether celebrated, imitated, exploited or denigrated. Whether natural from inside or skillfully applied,
My Black is Beautiful.
To my daughters, my sisters, my nieces, my cousins, my colleagues and my friends,
I speak for us all when I say again,
My Black is Beautiful.

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Thursday, February 3, 2011

Intro to Black Hair

More of my posters
Here is these guy’s blog. It is a little intense…but enjoy!

Regardless of where we stand in relationship to the belief systems of the hosts of this video, they do bring up some important issues in reference to black hair and the black community.  The first video interviews people and shows the pro-relaxer side of the story and the other shows the pro-natural side (my side).  Enjoy and learn a little about the debate.  I will add some links to my other posts on the topic, including pictures of my hair and a Tyra Banks Show on the topic.


pro relaxer, weave etc.
I did get my hair relaxed all through middle school and high school.  The first time I remember having scabs all over my head.  The chemicals were extremely painful and damaged my hair.  In the past couple yeast I have not relaxed my hair.  My natural curl has come back and my hair is several inches longer.  It is healthier.


Pro-natural
I think that people who have natural hair tend to take better care of it.  They wear protective styles and see the importance of building strong hair.  Those with natural hair also tend to apply heat less also making the hair healthier and stronger.

I don't think that there is anything wrong with relaxing hair but I have seen how much healthier it is in its natural state and the curl is something to be proud of.  I also like the I can hot comb or flat iron my hair and wear it straight and long when I want to.

Anyways, what are your thoughts on the topic?  Did you know that it was an issue in the black community?  What are your thoughts on relaxed vs. natural?

Saturday, January 22, 2011

Variety is The Spice of Life...or in This Case, The Source of Life

I sometimes get frustrated when I think of churches being huge buildings with constant remodeling and purchasing of unnecessary equipment. I was recently back home and my husband and I joined my parents at the church that I went to in high school. The church is gorgeous and huge.

As I was giving my husband a tour of the building, he was shocked at the size of the building and it made me think. Was this church I grew up in one of these maga-churches? My husband soon brought up the point that South Canyon Lutheran Church (SCLC) was able to provide so many services to the community that other churches don’t have a means to offer and I re-realized (the last time was in reference to various church beliefs toward music) that there is a need for all types of churches.

SCLC is able to provide weekly meals to the community, monthly meals for high school students (the high school is a couple hundred yards away), adopt over 50 families for Christmas and Easter, provide monthly meals for families in need, quilt hundreds of quilts to donate, pay for seminary students and work with many great organizations in the community.

SCLC is a wonderful church and communities need all kinds of churches. The church my husband and I attend (Emmaus Road Community Church)  meets in an old civic center with breaking folding chairs and little to no heat, but this church caters to the needs of a young community in a college town. There is a church in Spearfish, South Dakota that has a lot of doctors and set up a free clinic once a week and the church my husband grew up in regularly donates to missionaries.

Monday, January 17, 2011

The Real Solution

A while back I wrote a post commenting on the topic of Global Healthcare and how I think that the ideal solution would be people (especially the church) taking care of others, so that the government doesn't need to.  I have a minor lack of trust in the American population and in response do not think that people helping people to the point of there not being a need for government assistance is an unrealistic and naive ideal.

I would like to show you a video of some people who, I am ecstatic to say, are proving me wrong.

A video of the Good Shepherd Clinic in Spearfish, SD.

Thursday, January 13, 2011

13 Ways to Get Your Fruits & Veggies


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We seem to eat a lot of sweets and too much food in general over the holidays so here are some ideas that can help reverse the negative effects of the over eating.  Some of these will satisfy the sweet tooth while at the same time, ensure that you get your fruits and vegetables.  Several of these simple recipes use a lot of sugar or dairy, and I realize that may not always be the best option for everyone, but the mail ingredient is either a fruit or a vegetable.  Many people do not get their recommended 5 fruits and veggies a day and after a carbohydrate overload out bodies probably need some extra fruits and veggies.  

Healthy Snacks

1. Carrot sticks with hummus - Garden or roasted red pepper flavors are my favorite.  Broccoli is also good.  I invite you to try a couple different flavors with different veggies.  I also enjoy using hummus on salad instead of dressing.

2. Dried fruit - A dehydrator will pay off quickly.  It also comes with recipes for fruits and veggies.  If you are like me and let fruit get old, just cut it up and dehydrate it (I dip it in a honey and water mix about half and half).  This seems to make the best banana chips.  Fruit leather is also great - use a blender add honey, sugar or 100% fruit juice concentrate.  Apple sauce also works well.  My husband argues that it is not worth it to buy applesauce, but believe me, it is.

3. Trail Mix made from your dried fruit - I know that peanuts can be high in fat, but when mixed with a lot of fruit it is marvelous.  It is cheaper to make your own.

4. Veggie Chips - I recently saw these at our local Co-op.  I have not tried them but it seems that if you took carrots and dipped them in a b.sugar and water mixture they would be really good and sweet.  There are also recipes for dried cucumber.

5. Veggie Rolls - This one may not be the healthiest but it is one of the few ways my husband will eat vegetables.  Take a tortilla, spread a thin layer of cream cheese, making sure that one edge has a thicker layer to seal the roll.  Cut up carrots and cucumber (works best if sliced using a peeler - not chunks) and sprinkle that on the shell as well.  be careful not to get too many veggies on the edge with extra cream cheese.  Roll it all up starting at the end that doesn't have extra cream cheese and slice like you would a sushi roll.  These are quick, fairly healthy and will make you the life of the party.  You can try other veggies (maybe mushrooms or onions) and use fat free cream cheese, if desired.

6. Apples and Cheddar Cheese - Slice an apple and slice some cheddar cheese and eat one slice of each.  Some people eat peanut butter with their apples.  Be careful PB has a lot of calories and fat (same as peanuts) but it is perfect for vegetarians.

7. Fruit Smoothies - Take frozen fruit, vanilla yogurt, water (milk or fruit juice) and toss in a blender.  There is plenty of flavor, I typically use water.  If the drink gets stuck or the blender acts strange, you typically need more water.  These are great in the summer.

8. Fruit and yogurt - Easy take a couple tablespoons of yogurt and mix in a bunch of fruit.  You can use yogurt as the sauce in a fruit salad.

Easy Side Dish Ideas

9. Cheesy beans - My favorite way to prepare this is using yellow beans from my grandma's garden, however that is not always possible.  Canned green beans (NO SALT ADDED - only ingredients are beans and water - Most canned fruits and veggies have the option of sugar or salt - go without).  Cook on the stove, draining most of the water and adding 1 - 2 slices of cheese/can of beans.

10. Asian Vegetables - This is another way that my husband will eat vegetables.  Take frozen or canned vegetables (Asian frozen veggies work well - I sometimes add green beans or carrots from my grandma's garden).  Cook them on the stove as you normally would.  Add soy sauce and honey.  I use about half and half.  The recipe called for peanut oil, sesame seeds and cooks the veggies in the oven.  Add only if you know what you are doing and feel free to bake them if that is how you cook your veggies.  We don't keep sesame seeds on hand, I don't like Peanut oil, and we don't have oven safe dishes, so I made up the recipe I gave you.

11. Eggplant Pizza - Use eggplants as the crust.  Find a firm eggplant, dip it in a flour breading mixture and fry it in as little vegetable oil as possibly (This is the unhealthy part but it is smart to vary your vegetables).  Add pizza sauce and cheese.

12. Cutie Salad - Romaine lettuce (if you smell the root and it doesn't smell, this will be the best, and you might not need dressing).  Sliced carrots, tomatoes, mushrooms, radishes, other types of lettuce, all work well on top of the salad, if desired.  Sprinkle cheese on top and add cutie oranges around the side.  Add dressing of you choice, if you choose (keep in mind, garden flavored hummus might be enough).  If you find a bundle of lettuce with no smell there is a good chance you will want/need much less dressing.  You can also try olive oil and vinegar (flavored works well).

One Simple Meal Recipe

13. Homemade pizza - you can make or purchase dough.  When I purchase it we use the Jiffy boxed stuff or the Frozen packs of 5 loafs.  We prefer the frozen but you have to plan it the night before.  Follow crust instructions.  My favorite pizza toppings are canned pineapple (we tried cutting fresh pineapple and it is not good) and Sweet Heat Jalepenos.  I try to avoid pepperoni but you can use it.






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